My ex is a douche bag and I should have known better but we were together for three years. He was a “Gothy” motorcycle riding martial artsy bad boy that hated anything that wasn’t in the guide lines of what he thought was relevant. If you liked something that wasn’t heavy metal then apparently you were an idiot.
1. He cheated on me despite preaching how if there is no trust in a relationship there is no love. So much for “honor”.
2. He and some of his friends loved drama all the time and sometimes I was the victim of it when I didn’t do anything wrong.
3. One of the mother’s of his friends who knew him since he was four years old had an unhealthy obsession with him. She hated my guts just because he spent more time with me. Literally that was her reason. She acted like a friend to my face but when I wasn’t around did anything in her power to make people dislike me. My ex did nothing to stop this because “he didn’t want to be forced to choose between us”. This woman doesn’t have any friends her age btw. I call her fatty MILF in my head now-a-days.
4. My ex has entitlement issues. He buys nothing for himself and still lives with his parents. If they don’t buy things he wants he flips out. (He is 23 now)
5. When I found out he had cheated on me, (I came across a receipt for an extra small lingerie outfit and dildo in his bedroom by accident) he choked me when I tried to leave.
7. When my cousin, who was my best friend and a mutual friend to him, was murdered he gave me no sympathy. He was actually late to the memorial service and he and his friends had gone out for breakfast and did not invite me. I would have said no but still, I am your fucking girlfriend you douche!
8. Crazy fat wanna be MILF bought him a ticket to a concert that I wanted to go to but on the conditions that I couldn’t go. She wanted to have a “good time”. I had no clue until he called me AT WORK to tell me what was happening on the DAY of the concert and was surprised I was upset.
9. He would get angry if I had guy friends he was friends with. Strangely he would tell me nothing about his friends or anything he was doing. He even got angry when one of his non-dramatic friends was nice enough to show me how to bowl correctly.
10. I learned after we broke up that he would talk a lot of negative things about me when we were together. He would call me a “bitch” until finally he said it to the wrong person. She was a friend of mine who I am still close to now and she chewed him up and spit him out.
I am still hold some anger (can’t you tell?) towards him but I’m ready to let go. At one point I really did love this person and not all the times were bad. Towards the end when I began to distance myself from him he actually stepped up in giving me attention. He even bought me a bouquet of roses. But he didn’t change how he acted when it came to most things. Apparently since I have broken up with him no other woman has wanted to be around him. He has been single and hasn’t gotten laid in a long time. Not long ago he called my cell phone when he was drunk and threatened to rape me. Gee that’s fun! Looking back and reading my old journals during that time I realized I barely did anything wrong. I was a dutiful girlfriend who loved him. He was the problem in the relationship and the people who he allowed to affect it negatively. I was just dumb enough to take it for so long. I wish I told him to pull his damn tampon out and act like a man. lol Oh well.