Before you go through this article, here is a simple task for you. Can you remember your vows the day you said, “I Do,” to your man? For sure, you mentioned something like “In sickness and in health, through the good times and bad, ‘till death do us part.”
Andropause or male menopause may not be an alarming condition that can be a matter of life and death.
In fact, it is a normal part of the aging process where every guy in this planet, or at least majority of them, will have to go through at one point in his lives. Believe it or not, andropause can be depressing too, especially for your man.
This is where you come in. As his partner in life, you must understand, support and eventually help your man get through the challenges associated with aging. Unlike women where menopause is inevitable, a lot of men are not even aware of what male menopause is. How can you do that and be a perfect partner?
1. Educate Yourself About Male Menopause
Here’s the truth: menopause is an inevitable life process. Believe it or not, even men have it and will experience it at some point in their lives.
If you have been reading a lot about female menopause, then don’t forget to type in ‘male menopause’ or ‘andropause’ on the Google search bar to know more about that, too.
Keep in mind that educating yourself and gathering as much information as you can is the first step in understanding male menopause. This will make it easier for you to recognize and differentiate the symptoms that will set andropause apart from other medical conditions.
2. Watch out For Any Changes
No one knows your man more than you do. Aside from himself, you are the first one to notice any changes he is going through. Keep in mind that andropause usually happens between 45 and 50 years old.
Although the effects are not drastic compared to female menopause, andropause can still bring a lot of changes in a man’s body.
Therefore, if you notice that your man is more irritable, gains weight, loses muscle mass, suffers from low libido, or has problems in keeping or maintaining his man up, then he must be in the andropause stage.
Before you say anything, wait for at least six months to one year to see if there are any improvements. Otherwise, be the first one to lay the cards on the table and open up the possibility of andropause, which leads you to the next tip.
3. Talk To Your Man
Here’s the problem: not all men are psyched to go a doctor and get themselves checked. In fact, it can be a never-ending battle whether to go for a checkup or not.
Instead of nagging and forcing the issue, activate your compassionate self and put yourself in his shoes. This is the time where he is exceptionally irritable, so avoid any confrontation and ditch the high-pitch voice.
Talk to him in a nice way. Tell him that you have noticed some changes and after looking it up, it can be due to low testosterone. Use emphatic words such as “I feel,” so he knows that you really care for him. Show an express of concern, but never panic. Breathe.
4. Seek Treatment – Together
So, you finally convinced your man to seek treatment. That’s the first step towards addressing menopause. However, make sure that you are by his side all throughout the process.
Andropause is not a matter of life and death. However, this is the stage in a man’s life where everything else can be frustrating and depressing. At the same time, it is where he needs you the most.
Therefore, stay by his side. If you can, accompany him to doctor trips, laboratory tests, follow up checkups, or even if he needs to be confined, be there for him. If therapy is needed, then so be it. If he needs to take certain medications, don’t forget to remind him – every day.
Aside from this, the symptoms of andropause and thyroid disorders are similar, which can make the situation even more depressing for your man. Your support and being on his side can boost your man’s confidence and indirectly tell him that everything will be fine.
5. Encourage Your Man To Work Out
Andropause is inevitable. However, it doesn’t mean you can’t get away with it. In fact, there are a lot of treatments – both natural and with medical intervention – available to help men combat andropause.
In that case, encourage your man to work out. This is the point where men lose muscle mass and gain that beer belly more than ever.
Exercise can help men keep in shape and increase testosterone, which he needs at this point. Plus, it releases endorphins or happy hormones to address his depression.
A piece of advice: work out together. Look for a physical activity that is amenable to both of you and do it even for 15 to 20 minutes everyday. It can make a lot of difference plus it helps you lose weight, too.
6. Watch What He Eats
Aside from exercise, diet also plays a major in how men can go through menopause. Therefore, make sure that you serve only healthy and nutritious foods for your man.
Fruits, vegetables, whole grains and lean protein are some of the staple foods that must be on the table.
Shop for heart-healthy foods, low fat dairy products and plant-based proteins, since these food groups help a lot in addressing the symptoms of male menopause.
More importantly, focus on zinc-rich foods, such as garbanzo beans and oysters. Zinc is an essential ingredient needed to make testosterone, so make sure your man is getting enough of it.
Go ahead and whip up your cooking skills. You can surely come up with sumptuous, but healthy dishes for the man in the house.
7. Encourage A Healthy Lifestyle
Is your man drinking alcohol or smoking regularly? Does he love junk or processed food and prefers it over fruits and veggies?
If yes, then this is the perfect time to encourage him to kick the bad lifestyle habits and encourage him to adopt a healthy lifestyle.
Lifestyle factors also affect how men can deal with andropause. Aside from doing couple exercises and sticking to a healthy, balanced diet, his everyday routine can also tell whether he can win against male menopause or not. Therefore, try your best to help your man stick to a healthy lifestyle. This means getting rid of that big belly, too. It’s going to benefit him a lot.
8. Have Sex
Yes, ladies. You read that right. Adopting these healthy habits can do a lot in boosting your man’s T levels and eventually, help him gain his libido back.
In that case, make love with your man. Encourage intimacy, not just inside the bedroom, but also wherever you are.
More importantly, have sex. It makes your man feel loved and wanted, which is exactly what he needs to boost his ego and bring him back to the playing field. Enjoy your man. It will make him appreciate you more and make him feel that despite what he is going through, there is still special person who is willing to go the extra mile for him.
Oh, and don’t forget to experiment inside the bedroom. Just because he’s 50, it doesn’t mean you have to do the same thing over and over. Don’t be afraid to try out new things in bed.
9. Be Patient
Can you remember that verse in the Bible that says, “Love is patient, love is kind?” Well, apply that in this situation and understand the importance of being patient.
Andropause is the time where for one minute, your man is a loving husband and the next thing you know, he is angry and irritable.
Be patient. This is a challenging point in your man’s life where his hormones are all over the place. Just relax, understand the situation and remind yourself that what he is going through right now is normal. Patience is one of the best things you can give your man, so make sure you have a truck full of it.
10. Remember That Andropause Is Not A Problem But Only A Phase
Here’s another fact: not all experts agree that there is such thing as male menopause. In that case, don’t treat andropause as a problem, which experts are still trying to uncover.
Just like puberty or female menopause, keep in mind that andropause is a phase that your man has to go through, and there are many ways that can help them get over it.
Men are perceived as strong individuals, a rock for most women. However, there will come a point when they need some backup, too, especially when they are going through a phase that is 30 years behind research on female menopause. Therefore, the best you can do is to be there for your man, support him, give his needs and constantly remind him that everything will be alright.